How to Stop Worrying

By Donna Deming

Worry can rob us of finding joy in the present moment and keep us from reaching our full potential. How can you stop worrying? What can you do when you find yourself ruminating about a problem and moving quickly into a downward spiral?

Did you ever notice how when something good happens to you, you feel great for a little while and then the feeling fades? Yet when something bad happens the bad feeling can stay with you all day long as you go over and over the event in your mind. There is a saying: bad is stronger than good!

So what can you do? Here is one suggestion: When you experience a positive emotion such as joy savor the feeling; dwell on the event that brought you so much joy. Let the feeling linger and stay with it for a while.

When you find yourself ruminating and stirring up angry and depressed feelings distract yourself. The worse thing you can do is to keep yourself wrapped up in self-rumination. This will only lead to a downward spiral that goes out of control until you are drained, angry and feeling hopeless about your life goals and dreams. “I can’t believe she said that?” “I always mess up.” “I deserved that promotion.” “How come nothing ever works out for me?” “I am a terrible father.” “I will never publish a book.” “I will never date again.” One negative event can open the barn door to an avalanche of negative self -talk!!!

Yes distract yourself. At first you may reject that notion thinking instead that you have to get to the bottom of this problem. According to positive psychologists you are not going to gain any new insight into the problem through rumination. It can actually make you feel worse. You may also want to consider that you do not have a clear mind when you are in this state and your thinking will be distorted leaning heavily toward the negative.

Find something that will distract you from your rumination. How about a funny movie? Reading a good book? Physical exercise will help too. Get those endorphins going!

You may also want to consider scheduling worry time. Pick a time at the end of the day when you will sit and worry about your problem. This can free you up at the moment. 7 p.m. may be a good worry time, find a time that works for you. What’s interesting to note is that when 7 p.m. rolls around you probably won’t even feel like worrying about the problem.

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Glen S. Luckman, founder of http://glenluckman.org/ , shares easy ways to be fully present in the moment.

April 6, 2009– Glen S. Luckman, founder of http://glenluckman.net/ , a popular self help blog, shares his tips for living fully in the present moment.

“In writing and posting articles on my blog and in reading for my self help blog , I’ve found that living fully present in the moment is much more difficult in practice than in theory, especially given the pace of our modern day lives, I have chosen to share my top five steps to concentrate on daily,” reports Glen S. Luckman.

The List of Top Five Steps by Glen Luckman is as follows:

Glen Luckman top 5:

1. Focus on task at hand. Whatever you are doing in the moment no matter how mundane give your full attention. From washing dishes to talking on the phone or playing with children. Give each task your full attention.

2. Stay Organized. By being organized your mind is clear of clutter and it allows you to live in present. Keep an accurate calendar and lists whether they be electronic or the old fashion paper way.

3. Keep work areas free from clutter. Focusing at work requires a clean work space.

4. Focus on what you are grateful for.

5. Spend 10 minutes each day meditating, if not that then at least quiet time.

Glen Luckman also recommends smiling each day!

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Glen Luckman ,  founder of Glen S. Luckman shares easy ways to be fully present in the moment.

By Mujiba Salaam Parker

I believe that we are born with a good purpose for our lives and if we get in tune with it, we will experience our individual definitions of success. When we detour from the most beneficial paths we should travel on in life, the road seems to get rougher for us. These experiences will definitely become the opportunities for lessons to be learned, and it is crucial to make sure that we learn the lessons from the detours. It is possible to achieve your success in life by doing the following:

1. Follow Your Heart

It is important to do what our hearts are telling us to do if they are good in nature. This feeling can be similar to something that is pulling us in a particular direction. It is an internal compass that leads us in the direction we should go. I have found that even family members, who love me dearly, have advised me about things they felt I should have done, but I chose to follow my heart and every time that I did, it turned out to be the right decision for me. When we follow our hearts, they let us know the right choices to make for our lives. When we make the right choices for ourselves, we are achieving our success.

2. Do What You Love

We should also take the time to discover our gifts and talents so that we can do things that we are good at as well as have fun. I believe that we all have gifts and talents that we can do that will bring us joy as well as help others to experience joy. When we do what we love to do, we also allow others to appreciate our talents and have better life experiences. It is so important to do what we love because it is far better than doing the alternative. Our lives can be successful if we do what we love to do.

3. Stay Focused

We have to stay focused on following our hearts and doing what we love to do because life often times throws us curve balls that take our attention off of these two basic concepts. We must stay focused on what is important to us and what feels right for our lives. By ensuring that we keep our efforts on fulfilling our good purpose for our lives, we will be successful.

4. Realize Your Dreams

As we stay on the road that is right for us, we realize our dreams in life. Our dreams are part of our purpose that should be fulfilled. Now that I have realized this, I try my best to follow my heart, do what I love, stay focused, and I can truly say that I am realizing many of my dreams in life.  Achieve Your Success!

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